6 Teen Girls Tell Us Their Stories with Revenge Porn

By: Nour Jumma

Trigger Warning: mentions of sexual harassment, assault, emotional blackmail, revenge pornography and r*pe. Please, if you know this has the potential to affect you, don’t read it.

Writing this was extremely mentally draining. After every response I read, my heart felt heavier, and I lost more and more faith in this cruel world. My heart goes out to anyone that’s been a victim of revenge porn. Every other day we hear another horrific incident of “shit seme3ti, he leaked her nudes on his group chat”, or “she told him her passwords when they used to date now her pictures are on his story”. You probably know someone or know someone that knows someone. It’s heartbreaking and disgusting, to say the least.

Revenge porn is the distribution of sexually explicit and intimate images or video of individuals without their consent, whether by an ex-partner, or an unfortunate hacking of a Snapchat account. An invasion of privacy that always ruins the image of the victim, while the person sharing the private content is almost never questioned. 

However, many people don’t realise the toll this crime takes on the victim, and would mindlessly share pictures they’ve received from friends, worsening the impact of the incident. Countless lives are ruined, relationships with parents are tarnished, unhealthy sexual relations form and trust issues take over their lives. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. 

Here are 7 victims that were willing to share their harrowing stories of revenge porn, and how they’ve managed to survive it. We hope this raises attention to the grim crime and spreads consciousness about the crushing acts of the offender. 

How old were you when this first happened? 

1 – 15

2 – 16

3 – 16

4 – 15

5 – 15

6 – 12

How old are you now?
1 – 17

2 – 17

3 – 17

4 – 21

5 – 17

6 – 17

Who was this person?

1 – Some guy 

2 – My cousin

3 – Boyfriend

4 – A friend

5 – A guy

6 – Trainer

So, what happened?

1 – “ A guy blackmailed my friend and told her that if she didn’t s*ck him off he would go to her house and tell her parents lies (he somehow knew her address). She did it, but didn’t know that he told one of his friends to record a video of it, and a few months later he blackmailed her again saying he would send the video to her parents (again, somehow he had their contacts) if she won’t have s*x with him. She didn’t do it, and thankfully he left all of us alone after she threatened to report him to the police. ”

2 – “ He forced me to make out with him for over 40 minutes, even though I told him several times I wasn’t comfortable doing so. But he insisted on it, and promised not to tell anyone. Found out later on that my cousin, (who I was very close to at the time, not anymore) told him to do that to me so that she would find a reason to show our family I wasn’t an ‘angel’ and that I do wrong shit. Thankfully, she didn’t tell anyone what happened. But, he told everyone I knew (friends) about it saying that I was a hoe and lied saying we almost had s*x. When I asked him why, he said that, and I quote, “I don’t owe you anything you did this to yourself.” 

3 – “I was so in love once and I was convinced and manipulated by him, mentally w emotionally w verbally abused, he even kind of forced me into sex and took my virginity at age 16. I later loved el howar like any normal girl, and continued doing it with him, sent him nudes as I trusted him so much and fell for his sweet words. He never saved them nor screenshotted them, but one time we broke up and when we were back together I sent him more nudes and he screenshotted one and I was so shook because he never did that. He swore it was by mistake and he will immediately delete it. Later on when I woke up from how blinded I was and how manipulated I was and when I was able to block him and kick him out of my life, he went around saying I was already a non-virgin and I am a slut. He later sent the nudes to both my parents who he knew very well and who they loved and considered him as their child.”

4 – “I had “something” with someone, and his friends and the entire grade managed to get them. I was blackmailed for more pictures. Eventually, I drifted away from people. A few of my friends stuck by me and helped me through it. A few years back, I thought that this was all over but I was wrong, that person (his friend) still walks around showing them to people that I met recently. Every once in a while I still got random people (hiding behind a fake name) blackmailing me for more pictures.”

5 – “I sent nudes to a boy and he spread them around to his friends who in turn added me on Snapchat and asked me for nudes as well. He blocked me once I confronted him.”

6 – “ Through ages 10-12 I played basketball at this club. For most of the time, the coach was a sweet woman. But on her off days, this guy would come and train us. At first, it was fine and I didn’t really mind. He’d only train us maybe once a month if at all. As a kid, I used to have really long hair and I’d keep it in a long braid while training. One day we were in a match and a girl pulled my hair to get the ball before me. So he took me to the side and asked if I could tie it up, but I didn’t have an extra hair tie. So he turned me around and pulled the back of my shirt out and put my hair in there. When he was taking his hand out he placed it flatly in the middle of my back and stayed still for a bit. I didn’t think much of it, I was 12. The next time he trained us was normal. I went to the changing room after (it’s right next to the court) and changed out of my shirt in the locker room. I heard some noises but I assumed it was the cleaners or some other girls. When I was done I walked out and he was standing right outside the door. My dad was also right there soI went home. The next time he trained us he asked me to stay behind because he wanted me to practice something with him. When everyone left he took my hand and dragged me to the middle of the court. He showed me some tricks or wtv but he was very touchy and kept putting his hands on my waist and at the small of my back. When I went home I told mama I wanted to quit and I didn’t wanna play there anymore. I had a few sessions left so I went to those but didn’t sign up again. In my last session, he was there, and before we started he waved me over. I went and he said I can’t quit. I asked him why, and he showed me pictures from his phone, and it was of the time from the changing room. A bunch of pictures of a 12-year-old in a training bra. He said if I quit he’ll show everyone those pictures. I went home that day and my mom asked me why I wanted to quit. I told her that the guy creeped me out and she never asked more questions.”

How did it make you feel? 

2 – “ I fell into a deep depression again, (I had just gotten out of a very bad time in my life) and started self-harming after being clean for more than 6 months. My cousin knew all about it but still wanted to prove herself. I felt dirty and disgusting every time I remembered what happened. I deeply regret it and sometimes blamed myself for what happened. I have a deep hatred for him and my cousin, and I will never forgive them for what they did to me. ”

3 – “ howa technically fada7ni west ahly w it was a big disappointment and I don’t really know he sent it le meen tany or law it’s on any group aw haga. I just wish he rots in hell 3ashan daya3li most2bali w hayaty. It left me with a broken heart a broken family, and made me hate myself so much “ 

4 – “ It made me feel like shit, like I couldn’t trust anyone. What did I ever do to that person to deserve all of this? “

5 – “ It made me feel used and disgusting. “

6 – “ I was obviously terrified and didn’t know what to do. “

How did you survive the aftermath? 

1 – “ She didn’t talk to any of us since then but I hope she’s ok now. ”

2 – “ I finally talked to a friend about it, maybe 5 months after it happened. she supported me and told me it wasn’t my fault. It took a long time and I still get flashbacks and panic attacks sometimes. But now, a year later, I can finally feel happy and look in the mirror without hating myself, and I have been clean [from self-harming] for almost 9 months. I’m proud of myself for coming this far. “ 

3 – “ I had to move on. I knew I won the battle when he made 7 fake accounts just to contact me and try to win me back ( obv not love reasons ). He just couldn’t find had tany yesta7mel his abusiveness and yedeelo kol haga, aw wahda te2bal 3ala nafsaha el ehana like I did “

4 – “ The aftermath was horrible bgd, I was depressed and drifted away from everyone. But Elhamdullah I had someone to help me through all of it. Without that person bgd I don’t know kan mmkn yhsal eh. My life changed afterwards, and I can say because all of it I’m completely a different person. “

6 – “ I told some of my friends, but I didn’t really confront my feelings about it until I opened up about the rest of my trauma earlier this year “

7 – “ Honestly just repressed the fuck out of it. It wasn’t till recently I realised what had actually happened. “

If you thought this isn’t a common incident, think again. It took me 24 hours to collect 6 stories. I can’t comprehend the number of stories I would have heard if I had collected for a week instead. We collectively need to start calling out these offenders. If someone forwards you nudes their friends forwarded to them, call them out on it, and delete those pictures. If you come across an account posting explicit non-consensual content, report it, and encourage your friends to report it as well. In a world where things can reach hundreds in minutes, be the not-a-piece-of-shit person that defends the hurting victim.

Stay kind,

  • NKJ

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