Okay so I have a real ass question right here and if no one gives me some flipping answers, I am going to lose my shit. WHY ON EARTH IS EVERY GUY I’M ATTRACTED TO, ATTRACTED TO A THIRTY-SOMETHING YEAR OLD WITH TWO KIDS? Okay, I’m definitely exaggerating but like, y’all get the picture. Like, please give me some freaking answers because this is getting weird and is starting to get out of hand. Like, it’s starting to get worrying, what makes them want to like have a relationship with someone that’s like at least 4 years older than them. Why? Are we the problem? Like, are older women prettier? Are younger women more naïve? Like, I need some explanations and since no one would offer me an explanation because no one would acknowledge the damn topic, I did some research, and here’s what I found.
We can’t just ignore the fact that Hugh Jackman is married to Deborra-Lee Furness who is 13 years older than him. Neither can we ignore the fact that Jason freaking Momoa has a wife that is 12 years older than him, right? Or the fact that the French president, Emmanuel Macron is actually married to Brigitte Trogneaux, his secondary school teacher and a woman 24 years his senior. We can also mention Pete Davidson and Kate Beckinsale who 20 years older than him and Aston Kutcher and his ex-wife Demi Moore who is 16 years his senior. Shocker, right?
So, now that we’ve established that it is actually common and normal for guys to fall for women who are way older than them, we can carry on with this article.
On interviewing more than 200 men, authors Felicia Brings and Susan Winter found some interesting things. I don’t want to bore you with the small details so, here’s a general overview. Most of the men interviewed agreed on one thing and that s that older women are more confident in themselves and the way they carry themselves around they enjoy having conversations with them that are not just too shallow. They find maturity in older women that they don’t find in younger women because, needless to say, they are more experienced in life and have already found their purpose ads discovered themselves. They described older women as more relaxed ad calmer they’re very clear and focused. the experiences in life have made them more down to earth and realistic. This basically makes life with them easier because everything is basically already figured out.
Some other people have already experienced a relationship with an older woman and said that ‘once you have a relationship with an older woman, you just look at older women in a different way’. The fact that there’s so much to learn from an older woman just gives them thus rush like they’re having an adventure because there are just too many things to unfold and that’s exciting. Some said that older women think differently on some issues and this makes them feel that there’s someone to rely on when there is a real problem. Emotional stability was also highlighted, this stability makes the relationship filled with positivity and there were levels of honesty that made the relationship very stable. Other men said that when a woman that confident and experienced gives them attention, it boosts their confidence
So long story short, men who are attracted to older women are entranced by the woman’s confidence, experience, and maturity, not necessarily her age. Like, in my opinion, you’re not just attracted to a person from a certain age group, you just like a quality that the person in that age group has and in this case, it’s maturity. Anyways, we’re still young, we’re teenagers for God’s sake and if anyone wants to mature because they like more mature women, well, that’s your choice. In my case though, well, these are my freaking teenage years and I’m going to enjoy every goofy, immature second of them. Relationships can go burn in hell.