I’ve seen a lot of people go through heartbreak. Be it my closest guy friend, one of my girlfriends, an acquaintance, or even my own sister, I’ve seen it all. It hurts seeing people you love go through the feeling of someone not giving them the love they deserve. The love they need. As a person who has never been in a relationship, I weirdly know quite a lot about these things. I have dealt with heartbroken and heartbreakers.
Being in the situation I have been in (am still in), watching from afar, listening, giving advice and comforting, has been hard enough as it is. Now Imagine being on the receiving end of all that comforting? People trying to make you happy, trying to help you forget about the strong feelings you felt but never got back. Trying to help you forget about *that* person. The person whose presence brings back stolen memories and unfulfilled desires. Just imagine. I know that if you’re reading this, you have probably been through something similar, or still are. It hurts, it’s bad, it may feel like it, but the world doesn’t end just because someone doesn’t love us back. Maybe you had pictured a future with that person, desperately wanted for something to happen between you, but it simply wasn’t meant to be. And that’s when you know, you need to get over it. You need to distract yourself, care for yourself and set your priorities straight. Here’s just how you can do that.
Mel akher keda, el 7ayah mesh beto2of 3and 7ad. Even the toughest of situations can be overcome. Never easily, but there is always a way to do it.
First of all, comfort food. Food makes us all happy, and especially the food we crave and love the most. I remember 3-4 years ago, my sister had been in a similar situation. She was hurt, sad and a little bit angry. I had bought her 6 packs of indoomie and a few chipsy bags. Not really the healthiest or the most helpful solution, but it was worth a shot, and I’m sure eating her favorite food made her a bit happier than she was in the beginning.
Second of all, music. Music really is therapy, this isn’t a cliché. Listening to music you love, whether sad or happy, can change your mood and make you feel a million times better.
Third of all, watch your favourite movies. Chick flicks, Rom coms, Sad movies or even Henedy movies, distracting yourself is key.
And of course, going out with your friends, or even just staying in. Surround yourself with people who love you and care about you. Surround yourself with people who will seriously listen to you and make you feel comfortable, but also cheer you up. It’s actually the most important aspect. Bottling everything up is never the solution, find people who make sharing your feelings easy.
Play sports, go to the gym, ride a bike or just run. It clears your head and makes you stay fit, which is extremely important, because when we’re sad we tend to forget about our health.
And lastly, don’t go looking for love. Don’t chase it, don’t search for it, it will come to you when it is meant to. Rebounds are never the solution, you’ll be breaking your heart again, and someone else’s as well.
Give yourself time to heal.
Be happy 🙂