Am I the Only Single Girl in a Shella of Couples???

By: Marie

Being single in a sea of couples is the worst thing ever. Not that I experienced the feeling or anything, but I can imagine how this feeling is because you see your friend group drifting apart more and more everyday and you feel left out. So I’m kind of preparing myself for this day. Slowly but surely my friends will get in a relationship. And if I want it or not, our friendship will not be the same. So there is nothing to do about it. I will have to deal with it when the time comes. 

You’ll find it differently on the weekends, when you don’t know if you should go and hang out with some couples or stay at home and do nothing because you don’t want to be a third wheel. Or because you feel like you’re not welcomed. It sucks. And the worst thing ever, is when you want to be in a relationship so bad that you’re jealous of your friends. You’re happy for them but at the same time you can’t help it. 

You have to do your best to get all those negative thoughts out of your head. 

You can try to talk to your friends about how you are feeling. I’m sure they will understand but I’m not sure about how much they would accomplish.

There are plenty of other people that feel the same way that you do. Try to find people with similar interests, and I’m sure you’ll find a friend who wants someone to go out with on the weekend too.

Wherever you live, there must be a lot of clubs and activities you can do. Take workout classes, arts classes, etc. That way, you’ll keep yourself busy and make new friends. And who knows, maybe you find your soulmate too. 

It’s hard when you’re the 6th, 7th wheel and all your friends are cuddly and you’re just sitting there staring at the wall. 

Just keep in mind that you’ll not be single all the time. Most importantly, don’t force anything. Not because all your friends are in a relationship then you should be in one too. That’s not how it works. Every relationship is unique in its own way. Don’t settle for anything to just fit in. When the time comes, you’ll find someone who truly cares about you and loves you and you’ll be able to do all the things your friends do. 

And if you are in a relationship right now, don’t ignore your friend who isn’t. Because maybe one day your relationship will end and you will have no one. Appreciate their presence in your life because maybe it won’t last.

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