6 Ways You Could Be Fucking Up Your Relationship Without Realizing It

By: Marie

Relationships may be complicated and difficult. The way in which two people are connected whether it’s a romantic relationship, friendship, etc.requires a lot of work and an open mind. When people think of relationships, they think about having a boyfriend or girlfriend. But being in a relationship is not always like that. You can be in a relationship with your family, friends and even co-workers.

Relationships are very important in life. They remind you that you’re loved. Your life without relationships would be boring. You will have no one to talk to and share your thoughts with. A good relationship will teach you how to trust, to love and to care. However sometimes relationships don’t seem to work out well. In this case, you always blame your relationship partner for f*cking it up. But what if you are the one f*cking it up? Did you ask yourself if you are the real problem in the relationship? 

Here are some signs you are the problem in your relationship:

  1. You go silent about your feelings and start dropping hints. Sharing your feelings in a relationship is important. Dropping hints and waiting for your partner to notice there is a change in your attitude won’t get you anywhere. Deep conversations holds you together. Talking about your feelings prevents fights, creates connection and trust issues between you. I understand that talking about your feelings is not easy but it’s the most important part in a relationship. You should be honest with your partner in order for him to be honest with you.
  1. You never say sorry. Some people find it so hard to apologize for wrongdoing. They have complicated feelings about apologizing. Not going to lie, I’m one of those people. I find it hard to say “sorry”. 

When you apologize it restores the dignity of the person you hurt so they can change their hurt or anger into forgiveness. In fact, apologizing will relieve stress and bring happiness. It makes your relationship stronger and reduce conflicts.

  1. You take your partner for granted. Taking people for granted is easy, especially loved ones. We think that they will always be here with us and never leave. The truth is they won’t. Spend time with them, love them with all your heart, check on them, all these small things make them feel special. Because maybe one day they won’t be there. You’ll regret it if you don’t show them how much they matter to you because sometimes you start appreciating people when you lose them and it will be too late to bring them back.
  1. You are not giving enough space. Sometimes when someone asks you for space you think they don’t care about you and don’t want you in there life anymore. But that’s not true. Space is so important in a relationship. Space is healthy and being alone will make you more independent and it allows the relationship grow stronger. Maybe you’ll think it’s selfishness. Sometimes selfishness is important in life to get where you want and do what you need to do in order to be a better person. 
  1. You are trying to change your partner. Be the change you want to see in a relationship. Don’t put everything on your partner and thinking if you “fix” him/her your relationship will work out. If you want to change your partner start by accepting them for who they are whether than focusing on what they are not. Remind yourself of all the things you appreciate about them. Be open minded. Not everyone is you. Not everyone does the things you do or love. Embrace the uniqueness of each other. What will be the excitement in a relationship where the two of you are the same?
  1. Blaming your partner for your emotions. I am a strong believer that you shouldn’t rely on your partner to make you happy. You should be happy by yourself. Then you put your happiness with his/her and build a happy life. Don’t let your happiness and emotions be in somebody else’s hands. Be responsible for it. Know the things that make you happy and do them. Life is too short to be anything but happy.

So are you the one f*cking up your relationship?

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