“You Can’t Wear That You’ll Distract the Boys”

By: Malak Atwa

Everyone tends to have an opinion on everything – and by that I mean especially when – it has absolutely nothing to do with them. Homa el masryeen 7eshareyeen keda dayman, but actually it’s not just Egyptians, this is a global issue. Everyone seems to know what’s best for you somehow, how you should feel. It’s as if you wouldn’t be able to live without their thoughts, opinions or even beliefs. It’s basically insane. Something that I do want to point out is that: you can have your own opinion. You don’t have to share it if the situation has absolutely nothing to do with you. However, you are human. Therefore you are entitled to your own opinion, but something to keep in mind is that you need to respect others’ opinions, thoughts and beliefs too if you want them to respect yours.

Now, just because you are entitled to your own opinion doesn’t mean that you should go around sharing your opinion, telling everyone and their mothers what they “should” be doing – makontsh ra2es moleed el naby ya3nii. No matter who you are, or what you do for a living, you have absolutely no right to tell someone what they should or shouldn’t say, what they can and can’t eat, where they can and can’t go, and what they can or can’t wear. If we’re speaking in the sense of islam, all islam says about this is that the most you can do is avdvise them, but you cant control them, and that goes for anything. The decision is completely theirs because they’re the ones that’s going to face whatever consequence there is to their actions, not you.

I’ve said it a thousand times already, but I’ll say it again: everyone is different. Everyone feels differently about their bodies, no matter the size. Some people feel they look best in the tiniest dresses, or mini skirts and crop tops. While others, prefer sweatpants or jeans and a baggy tee-shirt. Either way, it’s absolutely none of your concern.

Boys will be boys.

You should change because _ _ _ _ is visiting.

You can’t wear that you’ll distract the boys.

I can see your bra strap.

…etc etc. It never really ends. Girls definitely face this dilemma more than guys do because – some – guys can basically get away with literally anything and everything unlike – some – girls. Guys half of the time are shirtless, they were shorts, they show skin, a lot. Which proves that nudity does not equal sexy. You never hear that guys are “asking for it”. The “problem” isn’t whether or not I choose to wear a mini skirt, the real problem is with you for being so bothered about it. The problem is with people who just want to control women’s bodies. It doesn’t matter what we do as long as they are in control. It’s my decision. It’s my choice. Just because I choose to wear jeans and a shirt doesn’t mean that I’m a prude. And just because I choose to wear shorts and a crop top doesn’t mean that im a slut either. It’s a choice, and it’s mine.

Some people feel empowered and confident when they dress modest and others don’t. It’s a choice, and it doesn’t take away from what really matters, which is you as a whole. The clothes on your back don’t mean anything. If dressing modestly empowers you and makes you feel confident then do it. And, if dressing “provocatively” empowers you and makes you feel confident, then dress “provocatively”. As long as you are happy and healthy then keep thriving and stay empowered. Just do you.

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