Wanting a Platonic Relationship Doesn’t Mean They are Less Interested in You

By: Mariam Abdelrazek

Platonic love; an emotional and spiritual relationship between a couple that does not involve sexual desire. Unfortunately, today’s sex-crazed culture has made this wonderful type of relationship mighty rare and in many cases, frowned upon – specially in Egypt. The thing that we fail to realize is that platonic relationships are wonderful and just as important and essential as any other type of relationship. It’s just our messed-up society that romanticizes everything and makes us believe that unless a relationship works in a certain way, it is not real.

There’s this common misconception that if two people stay friends for more than a certain period of time, they must have something romantic going on and you’ll find yourself thinking, “They can’t be just friends”. it’s okay, it’s not your fault that you’re thinking about the situation this way. Over the years, we’ve established that platonic relationships must end up being more than that for them to work out or for some kind of relationship to have existed in the first place. Basically, we learned to stop believing that a platonic relationship can work out. Society just uses these messed up tv series and books to implement these sick thoughts in our heads about how platonic love has to end up as romantic love for the story to have a happy ending. 

The thing about people in a platonic relationship is that they know that they’re in love – platonic love – and they acknowledge that it is just as strong as romantic love. There isn’t this misconception that for love to be real, it has to be romantic, no sis, your parents, siblings, friends…etcetera love you platonically and they will love you just as much as your husband/boyfriend/girlfriend does or ever will. there’s no better kind of love in the equation. Love is love. 

There’s this famous saying that ‘A platonic relationship is perhaps only possible when one or other of the Platonists is in love with a third person’. Perhaps this is what makes us so insecure about platonic relationships – due to the fact that we think romantic love is somehow better than platonic love – we feel that if we end up getting the end of the love stick that’s labelled platinic, we’ll feel less fortunate or appreciated than the person that ended up getting the romantic side of the stick. 

The fact that a person loves you platonically and loves another romantically does not mean that they love you any less. It means that they love both of you in the same amount but it’s just different types of love. The fact that you may be interested in them romantically and they you platonically is another issue. It just means that they don’t want a romantic relationship but it does not mean in any way that you are loved any less.

 I understand if this is a little hard to digest but I promise once it clicks, you’ll feel so much more secure and relieved. And fun fact, platonic love is proven to last more than romantic love.

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