You’re happy, you’re successful, things are going great with your job, your family, your personal life, then- all of a sudden – boom. Your ex reappears. In your DM’s, your blue-Snapchat-text, or in a late-night 3AM WhatsApp message, why on earth do ex-boyfriends and girlfriends attempt to crawl up on us when we’re finally, totally over them? Here are a couple reasons why your ex might be making a comeback.
When you pull away from someone you used to be involved with, they feel like they’re losing something they had. It’s very much a possessive/power move. They wonder why they lost you and start to remember what they could have had, if only you were in their life. If a guy comes back to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he/she love you or want to be with you – he/she could simply be curious.
Everyone is a little needy in relationships and can definitely still be needy when you’re out of them. So, if you cut your ex off faster than ever, they might be feeling it, it makes them wonder what you’re doing and who you’re hanging out with. You’re proving yourself to be really independent which is super attractive, but it can also can get your ex worrying about whether or not you need them. (The answer is no, btw).
Now, they realized that you actually used give a shit about them, so they’re hoping somewhere, deep down, you still do. Who else knows about their mom’s drinking problem or about that hole in the wall they hid from their landlord 6-months ago? Just you. And they want to get that gratification you used to give them.
Maybe, just maybe, they still have feelings for you or always will? If they’re feeling emotional or going through a tough time, they can remember moments where you helped them throw it together and get nostalgic. You’re just a warm memory for them that they want to feel again – even if it’s over.
Some people hate to fail and pride themselves in finishing what they started.
That’s admirable, but it will not last.
No one can stay in an unfulfilling situation forever – and they won’t.
You’re now with someone else, you have moved on, right? No no no ; they simply can’t handle knowing that you aren’t theirs anymore. Oops? Well surprise surprise it’s Not that they still want to be with you, but it majorly sucks to see you with someone else. They’re thinking about all the times you spent together and getting seriously in their feels.
Nostalgia can kill you and memories are often what we choose to remember. Try to focus on who you are, what you want, and where you want to go. Sometimes, you have to leave people behind. Even those that you thought would be beside you the whole way through.
Because being with you is better than being lonely – until it isn’t. And, like many of the other reasons, when they find a replacement, they will leave again. Everything ended for a reason, don’t go crawling backk this time..