Infatuation: The Toxic Emotion We All Confuse With Love

By: Renad Khaled

We often get mixed up between infatuation and love, so I’m here to tell you that they’re completely different since your confusion between both of these can get you into some deep trouble…
infatuation/ɪnˌfatʃʊˈeɪʃ(ə)n,ɪnˌfatjʊˈeɪʃ(ə)n/noun

an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.

Infatuation is basically when you’re in love with the idea of someone. Loving the dates you go on, the gifts you get, the texts you receive and the calls you fall asleep to. You like how they treat you and how they make you feel. Infatuation is a strong feeling and its capable of tricking you into thinking that you’re in love when in reality, you’re simply infatuated. 

Signs you’re Infatuated: 
You start thinking about what you want out of the relationship, you plan the future that you’ve always dreamt of and you tend to forget somethings the other person might not like. You’ll imagine having two dogs and a cat with this person without putting into consideration that they don’t like pets. 

If you’re infatuated you’ll find yourself excessively excited to spend time with this person, you’ll drop family time, studying/working and outings just to spend time with them. To sum it up, you’re not going through your daily routine, you’re way too excited so you tend to compromise essential tasks.

You’ll feel like you know everything about this person when in reality, you know nothing. You know stuff like their favorite color, their favorite sport or food, which are facts that any of their friends can possibly know. You know nothing about the real stuff like how they bite the inside of their cheek when they’re nervous or how they play with their ears until they fall asleep. 

Last thing on the list is jealousy. If you get extremely jealous and start doubting their feelings for you, you’re definitely infatuated. If you ignore their texts and reply dryly to their calls rather than actually talking to them about it, you’re also infatuated.

love/lʌv/nounnoun: love; plural noun: loves

  1. a strong feeling of affection.”babies fill parents with intense feelings of love”

Love is when you love the annoying thing your partner does. You accept the flaws and love them, you enjoy their company even when the situation is not that pleasant. Everything just feels easy, no worries and no doubts.

Signs you’re in love: 
When you’re in love, you will barely feel anxious. You won’t worry that your partner is losing feelings for you. You won’t worry about getting hurt. You’ll have faith in your relationship and in the person you’re with. You know that you two communicate enough to eliminate any doubts or fights. 

Love is when you love the annoying thing your partner does. You accept the flaws and love them, you enjoy their company even when the situation is not that pleasant. Everything just feels easy, no worries and no doubts.
Signs you’re in love: 
When you’re in love, you will barely feel anxious. You won’t worry that your partner is losing feelings for you. You won’t worry about getting hurt. You’ll have faith in your relationship and in the person you’re with. You know that you two communicate enough to eliminate any doubts or fights. 

Traits you thought you hated are now traits you adore. We all assume that we’ll never be with someone who does a certain thing, but when you realize that the person you’re in love with does that exact thing, you wont mind it, in fact, you’ll love it because its a part of who they are, a part of someone you love. 

You’ll be comfortable. You won’t mind looking like absolute shit around them because you know that dressing up and putting in a lot of effort all the time is not what your relationship is about. You’ll share secrets you never thought you’d share and you won’t feel embarrassed nor will you regret telling them. You’ll crack bad jokes and be your weirdest self without worrying about any judgements. 

You’ll get extremely annoyed, but it will never make you not want to see them. You’ll communicate easily, you’ll be able to talk to them about things they do (that are annoying) easily, and you’ll know that if you ever bother them, they’ll talk to you about it. Dry replies and ignored texts won’t be a part of your relationship because both of you would rather talk about it. 

Make sure you don’t get mixed up between both, and don’t try to convince yourself with anything thats not true. After reading this you’ll probably evaluate every aspect of your relationship, if you realize that you’re not in love even though you expected that you’d be, don’t rush anything and don’t twist events. Keep in mind that every relationship is different, what I stated might not apply to your relationship. 

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