Can Guys and Girls be Really “Just Friends”?

By: Malak Atwa

Falling in love with your best friend like in the movies may be some people’s dream but in reality that’s far from the truth, it’s the exception to the rule and not the rule itself – never mix them up.

It has been evident for centuries now that a lot of people are rooting against guy/girl friendships, whether its peoples opinions or just the natural male/female biology. Not everyone is pleased with the idea of a guy and a girl-both being heterosexual obviously-being “just friends”. Then again though what does “just friends” really mean? Well, it means that the two parties in that friendship have a bond of mutual-non sexual-affection.

The good aspect of having a friend of the opposite sex is that you’re usually like brother and sister, you always have a shoulder to cry on, a secret keeper, someone to help guide you-even if you don’t listen to their advice and end up messing up everything-theres no drama and you usually get a whole new perspective when you tell him/her the issues you’re facing and/or problems with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

Here’s something that you probably didn’t know before, but the love between two friends is platonic love-no matter the gender or sexuality of both parties in that friendship-meaning its purely spiritual and not physical whatsoever. A friend of mine once personified the basic guy/girl friendship by a contortionist because contortionists are very flexible like opposite sex friendships and yes its a very odd description but once you think about it, it somewhat makes sense. Your best friend always has your back, helps you in rough times, they can be protective and serious yet careless and fun. These friendships can be so powerful and overwhelming that you cant help but fall in love with him/her which is where things tend to get a bit messy. Whenever anything goes wrong in your life the person that you always tend to go to is your best friend and because of that you get so close to them and so attached that you just cant help but fall in love with them. People usually feel more inclined to pursue a relationship with their best friends because you already know almost everything about them.

In some scenarios when one of the parties in the friendships is in a relationship their partner may feel slightly intimidated due to their friendship and their bond, while other times the person in the relationship ends things between their partner because they fell in love with their best friend because of how comfortable and close they are. People are different, their thoughts and emotions differ and you cant judge a platonic friendship between a male and a female only because you know someone who was in a platonic friendship that ended badly.

While most people focus on the bad about opposite sex friendships they forget all about the good parts of it. It can be messy at times but its one of the best friendships that you might ever have.

In my honest opinion i think that being “just friends” really depends on both parties in that friendship. Falling in love with your best friend is easy, but personally i prefer a challenge. You don’t choose who you fall in love with, although maybe if we could, things would be a hell of a lot easier.

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