My Existence is Not About How Desirable You Find Me

By: Nazly Abdelrahman

We all care about other people’s opinion about us- whether we like to admit it or not. Everyone wants to feel good about themselves, and some people cannot feel good without others’ reassurance. You might want people to see you as the cute girl on the bus, the hot guy at the gym, or even just the socialite. We try to change ourselves, but we sometimes get lost in the process.

You can get too caught up with correcting your “faults” that you underestimate your other abilities. The purpose of life is not to impress others; it has been so for so many people and it is enough.

Who said that other people need to find you attractive, or find your outfits fashionable? Who said that you have to give in to what your other friends are doing and live up to their standards – whether it’s buying brands, wearing dresses 24/7, or having a fit body – in order to be leading a successful life?

I’m not telling you not to care about your presentation, but i’m telling you to only satisfy YOUR needs. If you feel that you need to live up to “beauty standards” in order to feel okay, go for it. But do not transform your life into a show to please others.

You do not exist for the sole purpose of pleasing others, but for pleasing yourself. If you find yourself attractive, screw other people. If you don’t care about the way you look, or the way you dress, so be it. If you want to focus on your studies, but people call you a nerd for that- so be it.

Screw the people who constantly tell you to avoid doing something since others will not accept it. You do not need to put on a mask in front of other people to avoid their judgmental comments. Heck, you don’t need to live up to any standards whatsoever.

Don’t care that “the guys won’t like you if you dress so carelessly”, or about other similar misconceptions. We are all unique, and we will all eventually find people who accept us for who we authentically are.

Do what you want to do; you weren’t brought into this world to put on a show for others and for others to “accept you”. Mahadesh loo 7aga 3aleiko; as long as you are okay with what you are then that is more than enough.

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