We all have a voice. However, only a few voices seem to be heard. How can you get people to listen to your voice?
- First of all, to be listened to you must listen to others and be good at it. It’s not as easy as you think it is therefore you should head to the previously written article: HERE’S WHY YOU SHOULD BE A GOOD LISTENER AND HOW
- The context of the things you say: Speak of things that interest the person/people you’re talking too. Talking about TV shows that they don’t watch is definitely a conversation killer.
- Talk more about them and less about you: Avoid using personal pronouns unless you’re telling a story. Find a way to relate whatever you’re saying to them. We’d all like to hear “That’s so you!” over “That’s so me!”
If you’re going to talk about yourself don’t ever mention things along the line of how much you ate or how low/high your grades are. Chances are others don’t care- unless they’re your parents.
- Don’t complain about things too much. It creates a negative vibe and doesn’t make room for a proper conversation.
- EYE CONTACT (but don’t be creepy)
- We all can’t pay attention to the teacher who speaks with the same tone of voice but, we don’t realize that we do the same. Make your voice go up when you’re talking about something cheerful -or something that pisses you off. Make it go down when you’re talking about something sad or disappointing. However, if the context of what you’re saying has a neutral effect on your emotions then change your tone of voice multiple times to give the impression that what you’re saying is interesting.
- Keep your stories focused. Don’t add unnecessary details but don’t remove too much details. Speed up in the less important parts and speak slowly in the more important parts to emphasize on what message you want to send to others.
- Take pauses to give a second for the person in front of you to comprehend what you’re saying on a deeper level -or pause for a dramatic effect.
- Change your facial expressions as you speak and act out the things you’re saying.
- Ask questions in the middle to make sure others are paying attention but don’t be too obvious and end up integrating them. Make it indirect and casual.
Example: “I lost my train of thought, where was I?”
Being a good listener and being a good speaker are what make conversations enjoyable for others and for you. The list could go on and on -and it will.
Stay tuned for more!